How to Change Your Mind from Enemy to Ally

“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it's your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can't package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.” – Wayne Dyer


Sometimes you want to give up. Sometimes you just want to say “Fuck this!”. Sometimes you're in a place where it's all a little too much. At times there is so much going on and you are just trying to find yourself in the intensity of it all.


It is in these moments that you discover what your mind is really capable of. The mind is powerful, that much is clear. But with great power comes great responsibility.


It is easy to go down that negative spiral. Allowing your brain, the enemy in this case, to produce a state of being that is shitty. You get angry, frustrated, bored, nervous, stressed, low, sad, anxious, overwhelmed, sad, confused, reactive.


Knowing that these are your current emotions and feelings is the first step to transforming your mind from the enemy to your ally. The fact that you know you are feeling the way you do is the first step towards feeling better, more positive, and altogether more collected.


Let's be clear, this is not about fighting these feelings. It is about acknowledging them, taking them in and being at one with them.


You can then start asking yourself these types of empowering questions:

·      Why am I feeling this way?

·      Why am I feeling angry?

·      Why am I feeling stressed?

·      Why am I feeling low on energy?

·      Why am I feeling unmotivated?


This will generally provide some useful answers. You can then ask yourself the following questions:

·      Is it helping me to be feeling this way?

·      Am I in a resourceful mood to be dealing with this challenge?

·      What is the opportunity cost of staying in this terrible state?

·      How much time of my life am I losing/wasting by continuing with this thought process?


And now is the key point. You have now moved from a state of unconscious low and a feeling of complete lack of control to having a better understanding of why you feel the way you do. You can then take aligned action to change your state by asking the following types of questions:

·      What could I do right now that would make me happy?

·      What is one thing I could action right now to feel slightly better about the situation I find myself in?

·      What could I do right now to help serve others (if it's not going to be your day at least you can try to make it a positive one for someone else)?

·      How could I change my mood right now (e.g. Play tennis, call my friend/partner, get back to someone I had promised to help, set something exciting up for very soon)?


If you take anything from this piece remember the simple words of wisdom that Shakespeare spoke so eloquently: “for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” When you are feeling at a loss or when you feel that things are completely out of control, your thoughts are generally to be blamed for creating your current thoughts and state of mind. Being aware of this point allows you to take a step back from the situation and re-analyze from a place of power. Your mind can be your ally… it should be your ally.


Empower. Your. Reality.


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